The issue with both these social stereotypes for the “too good” and “too bad” trans woman would be that they both infer that the trans woman is actually a guy, which produces an impossible balancing work for trans ladies. In the one hand, we punish trans ladies to be “pretty”, accuse trans that are beautiful of lying by passing, and state that trans females are perpetuating misogyny when you’re stereotypically feminine.
But, on the other hand, we additionally discipline trans women that aren’t “pretty” within the context of the cis-centric media landscape by saying which they “look like men”, they aren’t worth respect, can’t work a site task, can’t take noticeable news functions, are complicated to supply medical for, and much more synthetic obstacles designed for trans individuals.
This occurs at every possible moment, just to make them even easier to avoid because we, as a culture, seem to want trans people to both be cis-appearing enough to be invisible, but also we expect trans people to out themselves.
I heard from many close friends and family members were two things: “How will you ever get a good job? ” and “Will you be able to find anyone to love? When I came out as a trans woman, the first concern” These fears have become genuine items that numerous trans people find it difficult to get in their life. In addition it states a great deal why these will be the things that are first heard, much louder and much more common than excitement, gratitude for my trust, and event of my trans identity.
And much more notably, these barriers are no hassle for trans individuals as a burden, a drain on resources, a political liability, something “weird” to tolerate, a challenge, confused, mentally-ill (which is ableist), sexual fetishists, and so many other frameworks that place the burden on trans people for navigating a world that doesn’t respect us, doesn’t validate us, doesn’t support our basic human rights to free expression, and doesn’t empower us to be in positions of leadership in society because we have universally bad work ethic or because we aren’t worthy of love, these barriers exist because many cisgender people imagine us. Continue reading “Transphobic people will assert practically almost anything to get off the much easier truth, what trans men and women have been saying for many years: that trans women can be simply ladies who had been erroneously assigned male at delivery.”